Over the past year I’ve said many goodbyes. Some have been easy while others have been more challenging. Saying goodbye to a home and community of 23 years, a business of 18 years, and recently saying goodbye to my son who moved out of state. I’ll label all a normal part of life and add they were all chosen and planned. That said, they were naturally accompanied by feelings of sadness and loss as well as freedom and excitement.
When my son recently moved out of state I learned a few things I’d like to share. Maybe they could be helpful in your saying goodbye process. Whether chosen and planned or not. I became clear on what I wanted and asked for it. For me it was having some family time and one-on-one time with him before he left. I also learned the most effective words to communicate what I wanted. When I offered to help, which was simply my way of feeling a part of the process verses saying I thought he needed help, it was met with I don’t need help. I’ve seen and see him as a very capable and independent person who can take care of what needs to be done. Asking for help and support when needed and being appreciative of it too. I’m very proud of all he’s accomplished, the incredible person he is, and the many exciting life adventures ahead of him! I ended up asking, how can I be part of your day (his last day in town). With those words I was successful in spending priceless time with him which was extremely helpful in my saying goodbye process.
All goodbyes are a change from the way things were to a new way. Many times a better way. Still change can be challenging and initially met with some degree of resistance. It really is amazing to me how life is filled with daily opportunities for a self care conversation. 🙂
My name is Laura Li. Through my business and personal brand Laura Li Lifestyle I’m focused on self care while creating my best lifestyle. Thanks for saying yes and joining me here.
Until next time, Laura Li Lifestyle